Updated: Jun 1
You have probably heard about doulas at this point in your pregnancy. Doulas are privately paid support people who are hired by the family to give emotional, educational and physical support. I am sure you are wondering why someone would want an extra person at their birth? How much is a doula going to cost and is it worth the fee? What if you have a midwife, would I need a doula?
These are all really good questions.
Will a doula take away my partner's ability to support me?
There is going to be your partner, nurses and primary care provider all in the room at your birth. That seems like a lot of people to be in the room when you are pushing out your baby, That is true, the secret is, when you hire a doula they often help you feel like your birth was a more intimate experience. Your medical care team will be busy doing medical things like charting and setting up equipment. It is your doula that will be helping get you the cold face cloths, shutting doors, turning the lights down, getting your water bottled filled or cheering you on when your partner's cheers are no longer working. A doula does not do anything medical, their entire job is to make your birth experience more comfortable. Most people will say after their birth "how does anyone give birth without a doula?" It is hard to imagine not having the extra hands through such an experience.
Many studies have proven that doulas reduce the need for medical interventions. This equals fewer cesarean sections, fewer instrument deliveries and less need for pain medication. Most of all they help with positive birth experiences for the birthing person and support people.
Do I have to pay for a doula privately?
The cost of hiring a doula comes out of your pocket unless your medical plan will cover the fees. The fees can range from $600-$2500 depending on the doula's experience and packages. A doula is someone who works privately for you, they are not covered by MSP. Having a doula at your birth could alter the way you feel about your birth for the rest of your life. Having someone who can give your partner a much-needed break or show them at the moment how to give a good hip squeeze is invaluable. Doulas often build a relationship with your family during your pregnancy by having a few meetings with you before your birthing day. They will get to know your family and know what your wants and wishes are for your birth. I promise it is worth the expense.
Even with a great prenatal class like Dancing Star Birth under your belt, it is a lot to expect that your partner will know what to do during the birth. Is it time to go to the hospital? Are these contractions ever going to get stronger? How can I get comfortable when these waves keep waking me up? It is unlikely if your partner tells you it will be 'okay,' you will believe them. Having someone you can trust guide you through the process takes the pressure off of everyone. It is really handy having someone who knows about birth join you in early labour to help tuck you in and give your partner a nap if needed.
I have a Midwife why do I need a doula?
Your midwife and/or doctor is a regulated care provider. They will come to your birth when it is time for you to be monitored by a medical professional. Often this is in active labour. Most first-time parents have a long early first stage. During this time they are left on their own. When the midwives are at your birth they will be focused on charting and monitoring the birth process. They will not be staying up all night giving you hip squeezes making sure your partner is fed and has had a break.
Another bonus to a doula is they will bring tools to your birth like the TENS machine, Rebozo, and sometimes a birth pool. Some doulas offer postpartum doula support which means they come after your birth to help with basic cleaning, breastfeeding, and help you in the early days with all the new activities around caring for a newborn.
I am sure you are wondering what are some questions you can ask your doula when you interview them to make sure you pick the right one. Here is another post outlining some of the things you might want to think about before interviewing doulas.
Do you want someone who follows a similar style to Dancing Star Birth? Here is a link to the doulas who work closely with Dancing Star Birth.
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